- Jen Farmer
- Nov 18, 2021
- 4 min read
Picture you are in a situation that requires you to run quickly. Maybe you need to catch the a subway or bus. Perhaps you are chasing after your kids, grandkids or the dog. You wouldn't think, "Let me first do a few strides or intervals so I can prep my body to run fast."! Those strides will do nothing for you in your current situation- you should have done them before you actually needed that speed. The same goes for our mind. Say we are in a high stress situation or simply have a lot on our plate and need to stay hyper focused. It wouldn't be logical to think, "Ok, today's the day I need to stay focused and reject any external distractions", and believe that just because we want to stay focused we'll truly be able to do just that. Just because you want to run fast doesn't mean you'll immediately be able to run fast. Equally, just because you want to stay focused doesn't mean you'll be able to keep focused attention. You must exercise your mind to be ready to show up for you when you need it.

Lately, there've been a handful of moving parts to my day that require different areas of focus-and I'm not going to lie, I haven't always done a terrific job maintaining that mindset. If you work from home you can most likely relate! Writing a paper..."Doesn't the dishwasher need unloading?". On a conference call..."Was that an email notification?". Reading a story to your kids..."What do I have on my schedule tomorrow?". Dr. Amishi Jha, in a recent episode of The Genius Life, discusses a few strategies to exercise our mindfulness so we can truly be in tune to what matters in the moment.
Before I get into the exercises, I'll preface with saying, if you experience a wandering mind, you're not alone! Our mind typically wanders upwards of 50% in the day. It's normal to have a wandering mind- it'd actually be abnormal to have a mind that never wandered. Our goal isn't to completely eliminate this tendency, but rather to have the awareness when it happens and be able to return back to a place of balance and focus
Exercise #1: STOP
S: Stop
T: Take a Breath
O: Observe Your Surroundings
P: Proceed with the Task
This is a wonderful exercise to train your mind to return to a place of focus when you notice it wandering. I'll actually use an example from just a few minutes ago. Here I am writing this blog and I think, "Hmm I should probably check my email". Do I have an urgent item I'm waiting on in my email? No. As I notice my mind wander away from writing and towards my inbox I should first S: Notice the act of my mind wandering. T:Take a breath to regroup my self. O:Observe where I'm at and what I'm working on, bringing awareness back to my goal. P:Proceed with writing this. In order for me to be successful at doing this in a moment of wandering, it can be helpful to practice throughout the day-during a walk, while sitting at a stop sign (the sign is the perfect reminder), or cooking dinner. Think of this exercise as 4x:20 flat strides at the end of a run in preparation to run a marathon PR; doesn't always seem necessary in the moment you're in, but pays high dividends when you need that sprint finish for your finish line photo.

Breath Focus
This next exercise is another excellent tool at focusing and redirecting your attention. Again, this is something that should ideally be practiced daily, in preparation for key moments of focus. Start small, building a little at a time-and when I say small I mean really small! Even if you think you can do more, it's better to start with a truly attainable amount and be consistent then try to be a hero and burn out.
Sit on a chair with good posture. With eyes closed focus on your breathing. No need to alter your breath's pattern, simply notice it. Then once you notice its pattern, shine a flashlight onto one specific area that you notice your breath going towards. Perhaps you simply feel your chest going up and down or maybe you're aware of it in your fingers. Tune your mind into that one single body part, staying focused there. When your mind wanders (I say when not if, because it will wander) simply notice the wandering and redirect it back to your breath going to that body part. This allows you to practice sustained attention while redirecting your thoughts when they wander. Start with :30-:60 at first and build to 5:00-10:00 minutes. After practicing this technique for a few days, try it out in a real world situation. You're talking with a friend and while they're speaking you notice your mind wander to what you'll make for dinner that night. Notice it wandering and bring it back to be fully present in the conversation.
The goal of sustained focus is not perfection! Rather, it's the ability to notice when we are losing our attention to another priority and refocusing to the task at hand. I'm a huge fan of podcasts and have noticed a common trend among high level performers-being able to tune into one task with solid focus and then seamlessly switching to another when it's appropriate. Did you know it's actually impossible for anyone to multi-task. Instead, all we're really doing is intense task-switching. Some scenarios that can work, but more than not, it leaves 20 tasks 60% done rather than 5 tasks at 100%. So here's to doing our mental exercises and crushing our focus game!